The Habits of Unsuccessful People

I have written Below the habits of unsuccessful people, so that if you are really serious about creating a life that up until now you have only dreamed of you will know what to avoid.

‘If you want what others don’t have, you must do what others don’t do.’ 

There are many times in all of our lives when we may indulge in one or some of the activities that I am going to speak on and that’s OK as I see no harm in occasionally partaking in a few mind dulling experiences, however, ‘everything in moderation.

If you are finding that you spend countless hours, days, weeks or even years on these then I suggest that you Stop!

Take stock of where you are and assess if your current routine is adding to or robbing value from your life.

I am guessing that if you are reading this article then you have a strong desire to become your personal best or as I like to call it (the best version of You).

If so it would stand to reason then that you may want to make a decision ‘Now’ that you are willing to change any of the habits below that are currently hindering you on your journey to greatness.

Please do not cast judgment upon yourself if you do identify with the examples that follow, instead show yourself gratitude for being able to admit that you need to change and follow through.

There are many ways for you to totally reinvent your life once you know what it is that’s been holding you hostage and it begins with your mind followed by positive daily actions (no matter how small).

Rome wasn’t built in a day and neither was the masterpiece that is you. So chip away.

Your Habits are responsible for who you are today whether you like the person you are being or not, and the great thing about that fact is that you alone have complete control over creating better habits ‘starting now.’

Bad or unhealthy habits can lead to deep depression or even worse so please read on with an open heart and mind.

‘You are the creator of your own destiny.’ 

Your choices become your daily habits, which then turn in to routines ultimately manifesting as your life, so make good choices.

Lets Begin!

The Habits of The Unsuccessful

(Habit 1) — PROCRASTINATION 

There are many traits that will determine whether or not you will become successful but the number 1 dream killer has to be procrastination.

Meaning that no matter how hard you try and find the motivation to complete even a simple task you simply cannot find the motivation nor the will to get going. 

We have all felt procrastination creep up on us at one point in time or another, however, the difference in whether you are successful or unsuccessful at going after your dreams is how you choose to deal with procrastination when it does arise.

Unsuccessful people are slaves to their procrastination as it becomes their second nature. They find a plethora of excuses for why they are not completing their duties to self and others and can unfortunately remain stagnated for years.

Successful people, on the other hand, see it for what it is, observe the feeling they get from procrastination and carry on regardless.

Momentum creates momentum, so the more that you do something the easier it becomes.

This is true for both healthy and unhealthy habits so if you truly want to beat procrastination then you must take charge and begin the task you have been avoiding. ‘Even if its only for 5 minutes a day to start with.’

Eventually if you continue on this path your momentum will build until you are working on your dream full time. Initially it may seem hard but giving up on your best self will ultimately be harder.

So don’t delay.

(Habit 2 ) — PEOPLE WATCHING

Are you busy watching other people live their lives out in reality shows, films or TV programs ? do you waste time on the phone or face to face speaking about others when you could be focusing on some of the goals you have set to become the best version of you.

People watching is addictive and don’t marketers know it.

The Television industry has nailed it down to a fine art to ensure their business thrives, but what about your business?

What about all of the greatness that you have to offer the world. Your talents and gifts.

Don’t forget who you are while you worry about what everyone else is doing.

 Be successful by ‘minding your own business.’ Literally!

(Habit 3) — ADDICTION

Being addicted to any unhealthy substance or activity will rob you of what could potentially be the bests part of your life. Trust me I know. I used to be addicted to Weed.

Because of my unhealthy addiction, I procrastinated and would over think so much that I never really achieved anything more than partying and getting high for most of my twenties.

If you want to be successful then it will take willpower and strength of character to stick to your plan ‘even on the days when you don’t feel like it.’ And if you are carrying an addiction that will inevitably come first.

Don’t let your dreams suffer for temporary pleasure. See the bigger picture and you will overcome.

(Habit 4)— NEGATIVE TALK

Unsuccessful people love to speak badly of themselves and others. It’s a fact that those who are unhappy with themselves often project that unhappiness on to those around them. Have you ever been with a friend or associate and all they seem to do is criticize the world around.

It may be the weather or the traffic that is irking their mere existence or maybe its the queue for the coffee at star bucks and then the cashier who finally serves them who forgot to apologize for the long wait.

No matter what it may be an unhappy person will find fault with almost everyone and everything around them. If you find yourself often complaining about the fluffy stuff as I like to call it then reassess your motive in that moment and make a conscious decision to stop right there. Spend your time only praising that which is your world and watch it praise you in return.

(Habit 5) — FAILURE TO PLAN

I am sure that you have traveled outside of your immediate environment at least once if not thousands of times during your life and by immediate environment, I simply mean your home.

It may have been a trip to the local shop to collect groceries or maybe further, like a visit to another country. Whatever the case may be, in order for you to make that journey you would have at least to some degree had to have made a plan.

What would you wear to suit the weather? Would you need to pack a lunch? What time would you have to be showered and dressed to get to the bus or train on time?

If you are a driver, would your vehicle need fuel? Should you prepare a second route in case of traffic and unforeseen circumstances and so on.

I’m sure you get the drift?

If you want to become the best version of yourself then you will need a plan to follow. Set yourself tasks and execute them daily no matter how small they may seem. 

If you don’t yet know what your purpose is then I challenge you to meditate, read and search until you find it. 

Work daily on yourself, your habits your health and your happiness so that you can give back to the world and yourself. Remember that we are all supreme beings having a human experience so don’t take yourself to seriously.

Have fun and learn what your triggers for success are. Once you know these create a routine that you can easily follow and don’t ever give up.

If you know that exercising creates a natural buzz for you then do that, if its meditation or reading something inspirational then do that instead, or as well as.

No matter what it is practice regularly and become the person you know you truly deserve to be.

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‘If you are struggling with creating new habits in your life or suffer from low self esteem check out my books for more advice and guidance to help you prosper in both of these areas.’

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Thinking Positive

So many people believe that by simply thinking positive they will get positive results and while it is true that a positive mind can lead to a much better quality of life there is another if not even more important factor to consider when working on creating your best self and manifesting the life of your dreams.

If you really think carefully about the things that you desire whether they are related to an emotional, physical or spiritual aspect you will discover that while you may ponder positive thoughts around improvement within these areas nothing really changes if nothing really changes.

Let me explain!

For example you may desire a career change, maybe you now believe that you have out grown your old job and that you deserve more pay, better location and commuting to work, less hours and to be of even more service to your customers.

And let’s say that the work you currently do is as a cashier in a super market and the job you really want is as a school teacher.

Do you believe that by simply thinking positive that you will be able to achieve your dream career? I didn’t think so.

You see what you would definitely need to if you are serious about being a school teacher is to train in that area. It sounds like common sense really and I do not at all mean to come across as patronizing but whatever you want to be do or have will ultimately take some effort on your part in the form of ‘action’ to achieve it.

There are no short cuts when it comes to being fulfilled and successful. You must take full responsibility for your life as you are the architect of it.

No matter your age, race, gender or educational background up to this point if you want something bad enough you will find a way.

Positive thinking comes in to play when you are working towards your hopes and dreams to encourage you to not give up and sit idol.

By having a strong belief and affirming to yourself on a consistent daily basis that everything is working within your favor it will help you to stay on track when the going gets tough ‘and it will’ trust me.

Create your sacred space and meditate regularly on what it is you want to manifest but along with this power practice you must be willing to act.

Think about your daily activities and ask yourself if they are aligned with your ultimate goal if they are not then reassess what you’re doing and change them.

Anything you want to achieve will mean sacrifice but you can achieve it if you’re dedicated and focused on not only thinking positive but being positive.

Recommended Reading

‘If you are struggling with creating new habits in your life or suffer from low self esteem check out my books for more advice and guidance to help you prosper in both of these areas.’

Self Esteem        habits book by victoria grant

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Visualize your Dream Life

Why should you visualize your Dream Life today.

You are responsible for the level of success in your life by deciding what you choose to focus on and you have to create success on the inside before it can manifest outside of you.

If you are ready to create your dream life then the easiest and most fun way that I have found is to use visualization. If up until now you have been receiving things that you ‘do not want’ then it is because you have been focusing aka visualizing things of that manner.

Spend your infinite energy visualizing the life you desire and do this by using real photos and videos. Design a ‘vision board’ complete with your dream body, dream career, health, family, friends, money, partner, charity, holiday destination, amount you want to earn etcetera..

When you know what you are working towards it becomes exciting to get there. Visualize while you look at your vision board, book or video first thing in the morning and last thing at night and feel the emotions of already being, having and doing what you see on there.

Time is your biggest asset so do not ‘waste’ it ‘watching what others have’ as you do not know neither is it any of your business how they attain it. Unless they are a mentor to you or can aid you on your own journey leave them be. There is nothing wrong with using someone else’s success to fuel and inspire your own however just make sure that you are not letting it hinder you by belittling yourself for what you believe you should be, do or have. By visualizing the life of your dreams you are letting the Universe know exactly what to deliver in to your external realm.

And remember that you cannot compare your beginning to another middle or end. Your journey is yours alone!

Your success should never be measured against someone else’s. You are unique and offer talents like no other. ‘Spend’ time wisely focusing on the things you must do to become more useful than you may have been yesterday.

Visualize yourself exactly how you want to be and get clear in your mind’s eye the life you want to live, see the countries you will visit, causes you will support, your loving partner if you don’t already have one and a family happier than ever before.

~ Without a destination you Will arrive anywhere, so plan your journey~

The secret to visualization is to feel the emotions rise up from within as if you were already experiencing those things in the present moment. By doing this often you come to realize that the manifestations are simply a result and that the feeling is what causes the happiness and this you can create no matter what stage in life you are.

So go wild this is your life – and your imagination Think Big!

The more you visualize the easier it will be to create the life you desire.

Recommended Reading

‘If you are struggling with creating new habits in your life or suffer from low self esteem check out my books for more advice and guidance to help you prosper in both of these areas.’

Self Esteem        habits book by victoria grant