Top tips to turn your man on

Follow these top tips and turn your man on no matter what stage of the relationship you are at. There is always room for spicing things up to keep the fire burning, read below for tricks that are sure to turn any man weak.

Be amazing in the bedroom

If you notice I didn’t say be good or even great in the bedroom I said ‘be amazing’ and here’s why. There are plenty of other women in the world as you know who are just waiting for a good man to come in to their life and you already have one. That being said although you are not in competition to ‘get a man’ you still have to be aware that good man are hard to find so if you have one then you must do your best to keep it that way. We all know that Men love sex that comes as no surprise and your man is no different. He will probably want to be intimate with you as often as possible so it makes sense to ensure that the sex is as interesting as it can be. You want every session to feel brand new and for that to be the case you have to be amazing. Make a point of getting to know what your partner likes and don’t be afraid to step outside of your comfort zone to turn him on ‘what you are not willing to do another woman is.’ So remember that. If you’re a sex novice then seek advice from the experts watch porn and read the karma sutra for tips and tricks do whatever you need to do to educate yourself in the arena of sex until you are confident.

Initiate sex once in a while

We all know that men are natural hunters and in the pursuit of love they are the ones who usually take the first initiative. And there is nothing wrong with that, it shows a man’s confidence and willing to try ‘no matter how many times he may have been knocked down before. However now that he has you although he still wants to play his manly role there is nothing sexier than when a woman decides to take charge in the bedroom by letting your man know that you want him ‘right now.’ At first it may seem odd if you are not used to being the aggressor but trust me there is empowerment in a woman knowing what she wants and going after it. Tell your man exactly what you are going to do to him when you get home and follow through, be dominant and allow your man to kick back and enjoy the ride ‘literally.’ Tell him how wonderful he is and boost his big ego men love to feel like the king in your world so let him.

Wear sexy lingerie

No matter what size or shape you are there is something out here to suit everyone so there is really no excuse why you ant dress up sexy often for your man. If you feel insecure about your shape then check out some of my other posts on self esteem and how to love yourself fully. But believe me when I say if your man loves you its more than skin deep so while you work on yourself don’t forget to reward him with what he likes. Men are visual and enjoy to look at sexy women so make that woman be you. Try not to get too complacent in your relationship believing that because you have him he won’t stray or even if he never strays who wants their man being turned on by looking at other women? Not me. And if you’re the same I bet you don’t either. So keep it sexy ‘slutty even’ be daring in the bedroom and find something easy on the eye and easy to remove. Trust me he will thank you for it and the next day you will be the only thing on his mind. Never let your man leave the house hungry – Hungry for sex or food!

Talk Dirty

This may come as a surprise to some but men love a woman that can talk dirty. You need to separate yourself from the other women in his life such as his mother, grandmother, sisters, aunties etc. Be the one woman he can relate to on a sexual level and talk to him in a way that no other woman could. As previously stated this all adds to being amazing. And while we know you are a great girlfriend in every other sense this should be no different.  Use the kind of language you could not speak in front of your grandfather. Be vocal so that your man knows when he is hitting the right spots. This will make him want to please you even more so it’s a win / win scenario. It may feel forced or un-natural at first especially if you have never done it before but just go with it and ‘fake it till you make it if you have to.’ Trust me you will both benefit.

Turn yourself on

It’s so easy for us as women to lay back and let our significant other take charge. We often forget that a bit of encouragement goes a long way and we also forget that if you want something done right then ‘do it yourself.’

Obviously if you are reading this then I expect you are in a committed relationship and your man knows exactly what to do to turn you on but even so there is nothing wrong with giving him extra pointers now and again. Help him to help you by showing him the way and he will thank you for it. Get familiar with your own body and learn the art of pleasuring yourself. Not only will this drive him crazy it will also add to the fore play needed to ensure a great sex-ercise session.

Offer surprise random sex acts

Keeping your relationship new and fun requires you both to be adventurous. If you are only having sex in the bedroom at 10.30pm 3 days out of the week then I predict your relationship will run out of heat real quick. Remember when you first met and how it felt when the phone rang and it was your man, feel those butterflies and keep the fire burning every moment you can. A great way to do this is to be spontaneous. Don’t wait for him to always initiate sex as mentioned previously, but on top of that try to be open to doing it in new places, positions and times. If you can then pop up at his job wearing only a long overcoat and sexy lingerie underneath or pull over to a side street on the way home from shopping for a quickie. Maybe you could sneak in to the bathroom at a party and really get your groove on or simply offer to taste him all over randomly after the football match. Whatever it may be have fun, keep it cute and try not to get arrested for indecent exposure.

Keep the lights on

I can’t stress the point enough that men are visual by nature and they love to see everything to be fully aroused. There is nothing sexier than confidence especially in the bedroom and I understand first hand what it is like to want to hide less than flattering parts of your body but if your man loves you then he will kiss your stretch marks, scars and hold on to that back fat to prepare for landing. Although I speak in jest it can be daunting for us women to bear all but just remember that you are perfect in the eyes of your creator and if there is something that you do not like about your body then you have the power to change it or accept it either way don’t go through life in fear of what others think as that is none of your business. Own your look and they will have no option but to adore you. So keep the lights on and let him see the whole beauty that is you.

Wear that thing he likes

Now i am not speaking only about lingerie as we have discussed that earlier. What I mean in this section is to wear the type of clothes your man finds attractive. Depending on both of your styles that will mean something different to everyone but hopefully you know what that is. If he likes you in high heels then wear them when you are together, accentuate your best features be it your legs, boobs bum etc.. Choose clothes that compliment your physique so that when you are walking down the street with him he cant keep his eyes or hands off of you. Find out his favourite colour and incorporate that often. Now I don’t suggest going to the local superstore with three babies in tow in your highest heels and crop top ‘unless of course you want to’ all I mean is that you should make an effort to stay current in and sexy for your man and remember why he fell for you in the first place. If you were a size 10 jeans when you met then don’t assume he will find you attractive if you suddenly gain 40lbs ‘unless you’re pregnant’ and even then after you have the baby you can still go back to your original size. All I’m saying is keep in mind what he likes about you to keep him forever interested.

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